Motherhood: sacrificing for something greater

We read an article entitled Does a Full-Time Homemaker Swap Her Mind for a Mop? It was a very interesting article. I am grateful for motherhood and the blessing that come from this role. Here are my thought of this article. I have heard this phrase before this article. It was shocking to hear. I guess in a way some women can see motherhood as such, and so they don't create a family. Sadly, these women see the world differently. Being a mother doesn't degrade the education we get and it definitely doesn't cause us to forget what we have learned. Some women feel that once they are a mother their education will go to waste. What a silly thought. We continue to use our education even as a mother. Our brains don't go to mush. In fact, we use our education. We can use out education and teach our children. Mothers with an education are more involved with their children's lives and teach them more. As mothers with degrees, we can educate our children everyday. We can be an example of getting an education and blessing our family with it. Motherhood and education go hand in hand. We don't lose by sacrificing more education of perhaps and incredible job, but gain something much greater with more purpose by choosing motherhood and teaching within the home. 

Counsel

This week was about counseling. And it was an answer to prayer. I learned how to council with my husband and with the Lord. I also learned how to counsel with my husband while doing it with the Lord. I learned that I need to include the Lord with our thoughts and decisions and that we come to a decision after we have conversed with the Lord. It is also very important to have the Spirit with me at all times. I need to be worthy of the Spirit so that we as a couple can always do the right thing as we counsel with the Lord.

Gratitude to Those Who Care

I am grateful for people who truly care about the family and see the importance of this unit. We talked about a researcher Cloe. She created a way of truly helping others through repentance and reparation. Her processes is so wonderful. This post is more about my appreciation for those who care. I am grateful she was able to see the need and create this important process for those truly hurting. It is never about just changing the behavior. It is about changing the heart and focusing on becoming and not being. I am thankful for those who care.

Talk Talk Talk

It is crucial to talk and be open with our children. I learned that we can talk to them at ages 3, 6, 9, 12, 15 and 18 about sexuality. The key is teaching them in a way that is appropriate to their age. I know this can be done. It is sad that we need to talk to our kids at such a young age about sex, but if we do not they will find out about it from someone else. By talking to our children we open a window of respect and comfort in that they can come and talk to us about anything. It is so important to have this window and to open it. I am very appreciative of my parents for doing this. I know that it is a very helpful tool.

Prepare to Prevent

Having children can hurt a the relationship of the husband and wife, if they do not prepare. I didn't realize that this can happen to any couple. Which means, it could happen to me. But, thanks to this class, I am going to make sure it doesn't! It is easy to neglect each other and even get after each other when the first baby comes due to stress, fatigue, misunderstandings, lack of affection being expressed, ect. But this can be prevented!!! It's important to have the dad involved at the start of the pregnancy and throughout. Also, if couples are aware of what can happen after the baby comes they can plan for it. They can create a baby plan and have helpers come, like a mom. Being prepared is what is most important.

Be A Part of Their Lives

We talked a lot about homosexuality this week. I learned a lot about research on this issue. From everything we talked about it is very important to protect my children. As a parent I need to make sure I know where my children are and what they are doing. I also need to make sure that as a mother, my husband and I need to express unconditional love to each child. Love will help shape our child into great people. We also need to teach the importance of sexuality and the sacredness of our gender and who we are. We also need to talk about how the media portrays things so that they know what is right and what is wrong and can come to us when they have any questions or confusions about things.

Labeling and Creating

A childs mind, when little, is developing more than ever. These are crucial times in for them as their brain is developing and they are learning more about their surroundings and themselves. From class this week I realized how quickly a child can be primed during thi stage of development. This priming can be a very good thing, but it can also be a very bad thing. I want to talk about the bad side of this stage of development. While a child is growing, if he is referred to in a negtive way through name calling,  teasing, ect he is going to think that he is those things. All children grow up differently. Some grow faster and some slower. Others tend to be more sensitive as they develop and others not so much. Not matter the difference they are each a special, child of God. And we must be careful with how wer treat each child, even if they seem to be a little different than us. A child needs to know they are loved and accepted. If not, studies have proven that children to grow up to believe what everyone has been telling them about themselve. For example, research has shown that little children who are labeld as being gay most often will grow up to think that that is what they are. Which is not the case. It is amazing how one diminishing word echoed by any and placed upon one person can dictate who that child will be for the rest of their life. Let us all remember the impact we have on others and especially on our children that we can be the example that stops this labeling and creating of certain people.