Good Source of Needs

I liked a quote we talked about in class this week: "You can never get enough of what you need through a source you don't need." Now, how can we relate this to the family? What if we changed the quote around to something like, "You can never give enough of what they need through a source not good for them." This quote from class made me think about how important it is to be good parents. We are the leaders and teachers of these children. If we are parents who don't care about our children and their needs, how are we suppose to give them what they need? We need to be good parents so that our children can have what they deserve.

Family Systems Theory

   The family is a unit that, when quickly thought of, becomes something general that everyone has. But, from what I have learned this week, there are no "general" families. Each are unique, rules and systems they live by that are either making or breaking the family. But no family is just general. There is a theory about the family. It sees this unit as a whole. Everyone works off of each other and affects one another. It is called Family Systems Theory. Through roles obtained, gifted to, or placed upon (without a choice) and rules within the family, the family unit functions. We all have family rules that we live by. Most are the unspoken rules that everyone just seems to know, like no one can disrespect mom and if they do all dad has to do is look at them in a certain way. Within this system everyone affects everyone. And the problem isn't the obvious "problem" child, it's deeper than that. The problem child just shows that there is a problem within the family. He's more like the tattle-tail.  This system works circular; everyone feeds into everyone. I love this theory because I believe that no matter the issue, it is affecting each member of the family. And until that issue is found and dissolved the family will continue to suffer. All families really need is a little education on the family unit and it's processes. This is what I hope to get out of this class. I want to learn more about family processes within a family unit so that my family can be better able to communicate and understand one another. I want to have a family with clear boundaries.

Learn Now To Be the Teachers Later

Here's the deal... the family is under attack. It has been and will always be, I believe. From class discussion, this week, we read and learned about the disintegration of the family as a whole. This processes is occurring in many different ways.  It is being attacked through having premarital sex, a decrease in birth rate, decrease in fertility rate, choosing to marrying later in life, mothers going back to work during crucial stages of a childs life, cohbitating, ect. The statistics are unreal! It blows my mind. There are a number of causes as to why the family is literally disolving at this time of our lives; right infront of us; at our finger tips. Can you see it? It's everywhere. Television, Movies, Music, Magazines. I have learned how much I need to safe guard my family. But, more importantly, prepare myself now for them later. It is up to me and my husband to keep our family solid and strong. Something neat, as I learn about protecting the family, my family, I can also teach others! We can all teach other families of the importance of the family. I believe it is our obligation to do so. I have realized that as I desire to gain more knowledge about the family, and how to protect them through learning about being a better parent, that the Lord blesses. We are blessed for righteous choices. And wanting to learn how to defend the family is a great choice! and He will bless us for that! Yes, we are learners now, BUT soon we will be the teachers. And I want to have a great knowledge of the family to teach others. I learned a lot this week. Most were from insights I had from other peoples comments and pondering afterwards. I am excited to learn more!

The Foundation

THE FAMILY: 

A PROCLAMATION 

TO 

THE WORLD

The First Presidency and Council of the Twelve Apostles of theChurch of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints

WE, THE FIRST PRESIDENCY and the Council of the Twelve Apostles of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, solemnly proclaim that marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.

ALL HUMAN BEINGS—male and female—are created in the image of God. Each is a beloved spirit son or daughter of heavenly parents, and, as such, each has a divine nature and destiny. Gender is an essential characteristic of individual premortal, mortal, and eternal identity and purpose.

IN THE PREMORTAL REALM, spirit sons and daughters knew and worshipped God as their Eternal Father and accepted His plan by which His children could obtain a physical body and gain earthly experience to progress toward perfection and ultimately realize their divine destiny as heirs of eternal life. The divine plan of happiness enables family relationships to be perpetuated beyond the grave. Sacred ordinances and covenants available in holy temples make it possible for individuals to return to the presence of God and for families to be united eternally.

THE FIRST COMMANDMENT that God gave to Adam and Eve pertained to their potential for parenthood as husband and wife. We declare that God’s commandment for His children to multiply and replenish the earth remains in force. We further declare that God has commanded that the sacred powers of procreation are to be employed only between man and woman, lawfully wedded as husband and wife.

WE DECLARE the means by which mortal life is created to be divinely appointed. We affirm the sanctity of life and of its importance in God’s eternal plan.

HUSBAND AND WIFE have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. “Children are an heritage of the Lord” (Psalm 127:3). Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, and to teach them to love and serve one another, observe the commandments of God, and be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husbands and wives—mothers and fathers—will be held accountable before Go d for the discharge of these obligations.

THE FAMILY is ordained of God. Marriage between man and woman is essential to His eternal plan. Children are entitled to birth within the bonds of matrimony, and to be reared by a father and a mother who honor marital vows with complete fidelity. Happiness in family life is most likely to be achieved when founded upon the teachings of the Lord Jesus Christ. Successful marriages and families are established and maintained on principles of faith, prayer, repentance, forgiveness, respect, love, compassion, work, and wholesome recreational activities. By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners. Disability, death, or other circumstances may necessitate individual adaptation. Extended families should lend support when needed.

WE WARN that individuals who violate covenants of chastity, who abuse spouse or offspring, or who fail to fulfill family responsibilities will one day stand accountable before God. Further, we warn that the disintegration of the family will bring upon individuals, communities, and nations the calamities foretold by ancient and modern prophets.

WE CALL UPON responsible citizens and officers of government everywhere to promote those measures designed to maintain and strengthen the family as the fundamental unit of society.

My Purpose

    My deepest desire is to raise a righteous family. I know that I can do this, but not on my own. I have created this blog to help myself, and others, learn the importance of the family and apply it into our lives. This institution is divine.  I believe it to be ordained of God. There is no other institution of greater importance. We have an obligation to uphold the family, our families!